Cowards Run…Christians GO (at least they’re supposed to!)

Can I ask you a question?  Do you enjoy conflict?  If your answer is yes then let me be the first to tell you that you need help!  Personally, I hate conflict.  I don’t like it.  But the reality is that we all have to endure conflict from time to time.  People offend us.  We misunderstand one another.  We don’t always agree on everything.  Feelings get hurt.

Question:  How do you respond to conflict?  What is your default setting when you’re the one who’s been hurt?  

If you’re like normal people, you most likely respond by running from the conflict, avoiding the person/people you’re in conflict with, gossiping about them behind their back…and all the while keeping your exterior demeanor toward them just as normal as it’s always been.  Even though that may be our natural instinct…IT’S NOT OK!!!  God’s Word tells us how we need to respond in the midst of conflict and it goes against everything we naturally desire to do.  

God says, “GO to the other person and “show them their fault” (Matthew 18).  If you and I desire to be obedient to the Word and will of God then we MUST seek out people when conflict arises in order to communicate, resolve the conflict, and restore the relationship.

This is the ONLY way problems can be resolved.  Refusing to go and sit down with the person with whom you’re in conflict is dishonest, disobedient, and cowardly.  Gossiping behind their back only opens the door for Satan to bring division into friendships, families, churches, and communities.

Is there anyone you need to GO to today?  Be courageous…not cowardly!  GO!  Communicate!  Resolve conflict!

About Jon Sanders

Follower of Jesus; Husband to an amazing woman; Father of 3 great kids; Pastor of a multi-site church with a vision to reach rural America for Christ!
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  • Patrick

    what if the person you have a conflict with doent think that he is at fault at all

    • Patrick, that’s a great question. I claim the verse Romans 12:18 that says, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” According to the Bible, you are commanded to go and attempt to resolve conflict with someone if you’ve been hurt or offended, but the above verse acknowledges that some people are just plain impossible to get along with. It takes two people to resolve conflict and if you’re dealing with someone who won’t be honest and communicate then you need to simple release them for God to deal with.